“So many years of education yet nobody ever taught us to love ourselves and why it’s so important”  I seen this posted a week ago and it struck me.  I never grew up learning how to love me for who I was meant to be, I never knew why I couldn’t just be happy with who God created.  We are all created differently and there is something about each of us that is special.  Do you love who you truly are?  Or do you struggle to love the skin you’re in?

My self love started January 1st 2014 when I decided to make self care a priority, self care meaning eating healthier whole foods, working out daily, and being a more active mom for my children.  Also, having more positive thoughts towards myself.   I was told once by my counselor that self care is NOT being selfish, it should be a priority.  He seen that I had completely lost all my self care and was worried more about pleasing other people.  That phrase as stuck with me since that day, but I still didn’t apply the self care as a priority until 3 years ago.

We shouldn’t have to go through a HUGE life transformation to find self love but that is what it took for myself to see how amazing I truly was.  I didn’t just transform on the outside it was the inside emotionally and mentally that stuck out to me and made me realize I could do hard shit, and wasn’t being selfish for taking time for myself.  Am I proud of myself YES very proud for what I’ve accomplished in just 3 short years, I’ve learned more about myself and emotions in 3 year than I have my whole 28 years of life.

I am now 23 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby, I am due with a little boy November 25th.  The idea of having another baby was so exciting and we were so anxious for it to happen.  Well, it happened!!   I wasn’t expecting all these emotions and negative thoughts to come rushing back into my mind,  I knew I was going to gain weight so I instantly created positive affirmations for myself to remind myself how amazing  and strong my body truly is.

Self love have a whole new meaning to me now that I am 20 lbs heavier.  Watching my body transform backwards has been amazing but very CHALLENGING.   These baby’s we grow inside of us are a blessing and a miracle.  It has been very challenging though, and I am learning to love myself in a whole new way, self love for me came as I started to see physical results, but self love isn’t about having a nice booty, a flat tummy, 6 pack abs or great legs.  Self love is about loving the skin you are in no matter the number on the scale, each time you look at yourself in the mirror you should see an amazing women who has created life multiple times like me or in the future is going to create life.  Our children are NOT taught self love in school, who is responsible for teaching them self love?  Us as parents are responsible for teaching them how to love the skin they are in and the person God has created.  We are all unique!

I am not saying you shouldn’t take care of yourself mentally and physically though, I still highly recommend you working out daily, fueling your body with healthy food, and growing your mind with positivity.  Mentally this helps me cope through my anxiety and depression, I will always make self care a PRIORITY even over kids children and husband because I know when I am feeling my BEST that is when I am the BEST mother and wife!

Love yourself you deserve it!

XOXO Kylee